You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect - you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there
the way things are
when we go deeper into a relationship, we tend to try to make our partner happy in the best of our abilities. but in the process, we tend to expect and we tend to feel that we deserve to be treated the same way we treat our beloved…
but a lot of times in a relationship… it just doesn’t happen and everything just turns out the way you least expect it. then I guess we get frustrated about it because our expectations are not met.
Ganun naman… frustrations are results of expectations.
But then to come to think about it, we don’t choose people to be happy. We make the people important to us happy. We have to look at things at a different perspective. when we were younger, we used to put “it’s better to give than to receive” in our slumbooks. Now are school-aged children more mature than how we are now? siguro, we have to see that what we give is more important than what we recieve. that our efforts to make another person happy is the point of the relationship. that what we do for others is what actually counts.
when we go to heaven anyway, they don’t ask us what we have received. they ask us what we have done… And besides, you can’t love a person for the sole purpose of being happy because love and hurt are definitely inseparable. If you truly love a person, you’d still love him for who he is and how he is no matter what happens and how much it hurts.
wag mo ipilit.. BAKA DUMUGO!!
Compatibility is a major factor in choosing your lifetime partner. pero.. pano na lang kung hindi kayo bagay pero siya talaga ang gusto mo even though you are aware that this entails a lot of sacrifice and suffering on your part. And you feel like without that person, there is no happiness. ano? itutuloy mo pa ba?
well… the most logical and practical answer would be NO!
well think about it, kung hindi kayo bagay, e baka nga naman talaga hindi siya ang para sayo. sabi nga nila, WAG MO IPILIT… BAKA DUMUGO. and besides it is wrong to make someone your source of happiness… especially when you expect too much from the person and he is unable to meet the expectations. pano ka ngayon? edi frustrated ka na? parang natalo ka na nga, natalo ka pa ulit. napaka-LOSER db?
if you think na siya lang ang makapagpapasaya sayo, well you are missing the point. happiness is not given by a person, it is the memories from the experiences we share that make us happy. so, better yet, let’s make our own beautiful memories and make our own happiness. also, if you feel that without this particular person, you are nothing, you are degrading yourself. you are announcing to everyone your lack of self-esteem and self-worth. ano ka ba? ganun ka nlang ba ka-useless na you have to depend on one person for your happiness? pathetic diba?
pero tao nga naman kasi tayo… at ang hirap kasi jan pag nagmamahal… hindi utak ng ginagamit.. PUSO..
Dopamine…
ang dopamine ay isang neuro transmitter na nagsisilbiing reward hormone ng ating katawan. nagtritrigger ng pleasure center ba kung susumahin.. sa mga baliw na indibidwal (schizophrenic) mataas ang lebel nito. at sa mga deppressed at anti-social, kulang naman sila dito.
kinakabahan ako nitong mga nakaraang araw dahil sa case scenario namin sa psychiatric nursing at ang aking psych book ay nagmistulang horror book para sa akin dahil inilalarawan nito ang potensyal na pagkakataon na maaring naging dahilan ng ating pagtingin sa mundo, sa ating sarili at sa ibang tao.
alam ko na hindi naging maganda ang proseso ng pagpapalaki sa akin kung kayat natakot ako ng malaman ko ang mga maaring maging epekto ng pagkukulang sa akin noong pagkabata sa aking pagtanda.kaya kinabahan naman ako at nagresearch ako tungkol sa Dopamine. Mas madali naman kasi maiiwasan o masosolusyonan ang isang problema kung alam mo na kung ano ito.
sa aking pananaliksisik, napagalaman ko na ang dopamine levels pala ay bumababa habang tumatagal ang isang relasyon. at mas mabilis ito nanyayari sa mga lalaki kesa sa mga babae. at pag bumaba ang dopamine, nagiging unsatisfied na sila sa kanilang partner dahil hindi na sapat ang amount nito para mapagana ang pleasure center ng kanilang utak. at para bumawi at mapataas ang dopamine levels, maari silang uminom o mag-drugs o maghanap ng ibang babae upang bumalik ang normal dopamine levels nila. kaya nga lang, pagnasosobrahan, naadik sila at maari ito lumala at pag hindi naagapan, maaring magdevelop ng isang mental disorder ang nilalang na ion.
dahil ang dopamine ay nasa limbic system na tinagurian pinaka-primitive na parte ng ating utak. hindi ito malayo sa pagkakapareho ng mga ibang specie ng hayop na nagsusurvive parin hanggang sa panahong ito. ito na din siguro ang isa sa mga dahilan kung bakit nagsurvive ang tao sa mundong ito.. siguro ito na din ay isang dahilan kung bakit ganun na lang kabilis dumami ang tao sa mundo…
at ganun na lang siguro ang dahilan kung bakit maraming nagloloko, malalandi at makakati…
ganun na lang siguro ang dahilan kung bakit nakakabaliw ang pagibig…
at kailangan talagang tagalog na tagalog ang post ko na ito.
Ang mundo ay isang malaking PAYATAS
Ang Tunay na Nagmamahal parang TAPAT na estudyanteng nag-eexam. Kahit nahihirapan na.. Hindi parin tumitingin sa iba. :))
The secret to a peaceful relationship is to stop thinking and start feeling.. :)
Its easier to hate than to love… But isn’t life just too short to be a hater? :)
When you kiss ass, everything tastes of sh*t…
